This is a very typical question that requires a very typical answer. But to be frank with you my readers, training up a child comes in different ways and styles depending on how you do yours
Even the HOLY BOOK ”THE BIBLE” advises that if parents spare the rod, they will definitely spoil the child. Another portion of the bible advises that parents should train up their child in the way that they should grow so that when they grow up, they will not depart from it. Now this is the biblical side to child training.
Please let me advise parents and intending parents reading this piece right now. Please parents (especially mothers) stop calling your child (ren) negative names especially in your local dialect…
Some mothers go as far as calling their child(ren) things like ”were ni e” (you are mad) ”olori buruku ni e” (you are a stupid child) ”koni da fun e” (it will not be better for you), ”o ni ku re” you will die a negative death), ”oniranu” (useless child) ”omo buruku jati jati” (you are a very stupid child), EXCUSE ME!!!!!!!
FOR GOD’S SAKE, DO YOU EVEN KNOW THE MEANING OF THESE (local Adjectives) YOU USE ON YOUR OWN CHILDREN?
DO YOU EVEN WISH YOUR CHILD(REN) WELL AT ALL?
WHAT SORT OF A MOTHER ARE YOU?
IS GOD EVER GOING TO FORGIVE YOU FOR THIS NONSENSE?
DO YOU THINK THIS IS THE RIGHT WAY TO INSTILL DISCIPLINE INTO YOUR CHILDREN? DO YOU TAKE ALL OF THESE AS A MERE ABUSE?
ARE YOU EVEN SUPPOSED TO ABUSE YOUR CHILD IN THE FIRST PLACE?
These are the few rhetorical questions that even you (PARENTS) cannot answer.
Listen to me sweet mother, DON’T YOU KNOW THAT THERE IS POWER IN THE TONGUE?
OR HAVE YOU NOT THOUGHT THAT YOUR CHILD(REN) MIGHT BECOME THOSE NEGATIVE THINGS YOU CALL THEM? (GOD FORBID)!
How will you feel if your child start behaving like a mad fellow/ maybe that time, you’ll start blaming the Devil (who has been on his own)
that’s when you go to 32 nights of vigil and fasting and prayer.
What do you expect to see when you say, ”were nie” to your child?
(for those of you who doesn’t understand yoruba, ”were nie” means ”you are mad” in English translation). Now imagine when you say this to a growing child ???
please PARENTS, (intending parents also) try to say positive things to your children. cursing your child(ren) is not a better way of expressing tough love to them.
(There are many other ways of doing that which i will be showing us much later.) but please parents, learn to say positive things to your children so you don’t regret in the long run.
FATHERS, you have turned your children into a punching bag that when you come back at night and at the sight of you, instead coming to hug and welcome you home, they all scamper helter skelter just to hide. Some pretend to be sleeping just because DADDY is around.
why have you chosen to disfigure your children for no reason?? and if they ask you, you say that you”re training them. (TO HELL WITH THAT RUDE TRAINING OF YOURS), just know that you are going to regret it at the end of the day…
in my next article, i will be showing you parents HOW to show tough love to your children without actually cursing or abusing them or turning them into a punching bag.
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