How are you treating your girl?
This is a question that guys need to answer with utmost sincerity, are you treating her like a queen or like a slave? Do you see her as a priority or an option?
On your way to class, you meet this very pretty girl, she’s gorgeous, clean, cute and you will like to have her as your girlfriend, thinking that she might turn you down if you approach her like that, you apply some sense, walk up to her, ask for her name, ask for her number too, well! She reluctantly gives you her number.
You have her number now, after getting home, you call her…. You introduce yourself as the guy she met earlier that day, you request to be her friend and she reply with “no problem”, she doesn’t know your plans and intentions so she accept you as her friend ignorantly.
You add her on whatsapp, you start texting her, you start calling her at nights, you start calling her different kind of sweet names (babe, darling, dear, Bae, pretty), you start complimenting and flattering her.
Gbam! She’s falling for your tricks already, she’s now happy with you, she’s getting attached to you, she laughs whenever you’re around, she sees you as someone that makes her happy, she likes you already, seeing this….. As a sharp guy, you start avoiding her, you give her little space for her to miss you, now she’s missing you madly, she’s feeling incomplete without you, she’s feeling sad without you, she’s feeling empty without you, she’s madly in love with you.
Fuam! You appear from nowhere with your romantic text messages again, she’s happy to have you back, you hang out with her for few days, then you confess your feelings to her. Wawu! She is happy, but she hides it, she pretends as if she doesn’t like you, but after giving her little pressure she gives in.
Now, Let’s reason
Before you met her, she was a very strong girl, lots of cute guys have asked her out, she refused, lots of rich guys have tried to impress her with money just to win her heart, she refused.
Despite how strong she was, you played your way into her heart, you made her fall in love, you made her weak, you made her emotional, you targeted her weak points and made her fell on her knee, her happiness and her sadness now depend on the way you treat her, you now officially have remote control of her mood.
Wait bro! You’re her weak point, yes that is correct, but do you have to use yourself against her?, have you thought of how you guys started?, what made you to love her in the first place?, has the love died?, is the feelings no more?, what would you gain from letting her suffer?
Fine! She did something bad, she offended you, or she does some things that you dislike, have you tried correcting her? Did she refuse to be corrected?, was her reaction to your correction bad?, does punishing her worth it?
If she has unconsciously offended you, sit her down, let her know what she did, don’t change towards her, don’t raise your voice at her, don’t shout on her, don’t ignore her calls, don’t ignore her texts, don’t ignore her, she shouldn’t regret falling in love with you.
Nice, you asked her for sex, she told you she’s not ready for it, she humbly told you that sex will only be possible after marriage, because of her decision, you started acting weird, you started giving her bad attitudes, you started treating her like a slave, like a maid, shouting on her is your hobby, ignoring her calls is your favorite action, ignoring her texts gives you joy.
Have you ever put yourself in her shoe? Have you ever imagined any of your sister in that condition?, have you ever thought of what the outcome of your action might be?, have you ever thought of the effect your action might have on her?
Women are delicate, they need to be valued, they need to be treated like a queen, not to be maltreated like a slave, lots of guys are begging for her attentions, try appreciating her, prove to her that she didn’t make a wrong choice by saying yes to you, if there are things you like in other girls and she doesn’t have, try incorporating them into her, never force her to be someone she’s not, love her for who she is, she deserves to be treated like a queen, take her as your priority.
Don’t forget what Shar Khan use to say:
Love a girl for who she is, not who you want her to be, if you love her for who she is, that’s true love, but if you love her for who you want her to be, that’s compromise and there’s no compromise in love.
Think about it, she needs to be appreciated and complimented everyday.
HOW YOU SHOULD TREAT YOUR GIRL
Pampering your girl is very important and it shows that you always care for her. It doesn’t have to be cheap or expensive, as long as you make an effort to make her happy. You could gift her food when she wasn’t expecting it, maybe she had a tiring day and she wasn’t able to cook at home, you could pay her a visit and gift her a food or even cook for her. Always remember it’s the effort that counts.
COMMUNICATE WITH HER.
Communications is very essential in any relationship, make sure you’re keeping in touch with her, establish a good communication with your girl. If she’s bothered about something, let her express it and understand her afterwards. In this way, she we’ll be able to feel that you are always ready to listen to her worries and other stuff that’s on her mind.
BE A GENTLEMAN.
Treat her like a queen, don’t raise your voice at her, don’t shout on her, be as polite as possible whenever you’re with her, she’ll find it romantic. Being a gentleman is a plus. Doing this to your girl will let her feel that you are really a good man most especially when you are with the people close to her.
ALWAYS COMPLIMENT HER.
Nothing would make your girl feel that she is your queen but by complimenting her always. Tell her that she is always beautiful even if she is in her worst state. Through this, it will give her confidence with herself and your relationship.
RESPECT HER OPINIONS.
There are times that the two of you have different point of views onto something. Always respect her opinions. Giving her the freedom to think differently on many things is also respecting your differences as individuals.
ALWAYS MAKE HER YOUR PRIORITY
Always make her your top priority. Put her needs before yours. If you want to treat your girl like a queen, be her servant first. In this way, she will be honored every single day and eventually she will reciprocate the respect to you.
DON’T LET HER GET JEALOUS WITH OTHER GIRLS.
Don’t let her feel insecure with herself and envy other girls. When you talk with others, make sure she won’t have a reason to feel jealous. What you don’t understand with her is that when she gets jealous, it’s not just about over reacting because deep down she will think that someone is better than her and it could lower her self-esteem. Constantly remind your girl that she is your only one and that no one could be compared to her.
Learn to understand what she feels. It is true that women tend to be complicated, but sometimes, they just want more understanding of what they think and how they feel.
CARE FOR HER.
Remind her that you always care for her. Be there whenever she needs you especially if she is having a tough time. A shoulder to cry on is the best thing that you could give to her.
One thing a relationship needs is trust. You should always trust her, may it be her decisions in life or the things she does. It will also build a connection between the two of you, thus, making your feelings for each other grow.
TRY TO BE LOYAL TO HER.
As a servant to your queen, you should give your loyalty to her. Don’t ever hurt her with any form of disloyalty, thus, cheating is a big NO. Reassure her that you will always be right by her side even in the toughest times.
NEVER TAKE HER FOR GRANTED.
If you want to treat your girl like a queen, you should never ever take her for granted. Always be grateful to all the things she has done to you even for just a simple gesture. Appreciate her efforts towards you. Give her compliments whenever you got the chance.
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